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This was written by an 83-year-old woman to her friend.
*The last line says it all. *
Dear Bertha,
I’m reading more and dusting less. I’m sitting in the yard and admiring the view without fussing about the weeds in the garden. I’m spending more time with my family and friends and less time working.
Whenever possible, life should be a pattern of experiences to savor, not to endure. I’m trying to recognize these moments now and cherish them.
I’m not “saving” anything; we use our good china and crystal for every special event such as losing a pound, getting the sink unstopped, or the first Amaryllis blossom.
I wear my good blazer to the market. My theory is if I look prosperous, I can shell out $28.49 for one small bag of groceries. I’m not saving my good perfume for special parties, but wearing it for clerks in the hardware store and tellers at the bank.
“Someday” and “one of these days” are losing their grip on my vocabulary. If it’s worth seeing or hearing or doing, I want to see and hear and do it now
I’m not sure what others would’ve done had they known they wouldn’t be here for the tomorrow that we all take for granted. I think they would have called family members and a few close friends. They might have called a few former friends to apologize and mend fences for past squabbles. I like to think they would have gone out for a Chinese dinner or for whatever their favorite food was.
I’m guessing; I’ll never know.
It’s those little things left undone that would make me angry if I knew my hours were limited. Angry because I hadn’t written certain letters that I intended to write one of these days. Angry and sorry that I didn’t tell my husband and parents often enough how much I truly love them. I’m trying very hard not to put off, hold back, or save anything that would add laughter and luster to our lives. And every morning when I open my eyes, tell myself that it is special.
Every day, every minute, every breath truly is a gift from God.
“People say true friends must always hold hands, but true friends don’t need to hold hands because they know the other hand will always be there.”
Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we are here we might as well dance.

Siew Kwan shares a number of meaningful thoughts in her blog. Visit Siew Kwan to receive the abundance of wisdom and lots of other good stuff.
Just a sample of one of such thoughts.
Don’t throw your back to love when it’s already in front of you. Don’t drive it away from you because if you do, someday you’ll think again why you let love fly away when it was once residing next to you.
Greed and Fear
The two most powerful emotions that we have, I believe
Every decision we make revolves around a tug-of-war between the two emotions.
Fear is a very transient emotion though. Most of us get desensitized by fear.
Our materialistic world is full of dualities and contradictions. Without Pain we know not of Pleasure. Only when we welcome Pain, we know and appreciate the sheer essence of Pleasure.I can’t agree with you more. If our hearts know not of Pain, how do we know there is Love?If we don’t grow trees in our hearts, we’ll not let singing birds into hearts.
Welcome Pain
Though it may not feel like it while in the throes of gut-wrenching pain, you grow and gain strength as you work through the loss, the hurt, and the confusion. Perhaps you learn to appreciate what you have after losing someone close to your heart. Maybe you feel strengthened by simply surviving the experience and not giving up. Maybe you discovered powers you never thought you had because you were able to actually help a close friend through her loss.
Pain teaches you in unexpected ways how to be wiser and stronger, how to face your fears and not run away from them, and how to strengthen your resolve to rise above loss and find the blessings in disguise.
It hurts to fall down and skin your knee. As a child, if you hadn’t fallen so often, you wouldn’t know the joy of riding a bike or even walking. Feeling pain is essential to feeling alive. The question isn’t how to negate it; rather, it’s how to face it head on and deal with it so you come out better on the other end.
Like many others, you may have a tendency to not allow a wound to heal. With emotional wounds, it takes time and forgiveness to let go of pain. Wallowing in loss, holding grudges, harbouring anger and resentment, and being judgmental of others will do no good. The pain, though it may be buried or hidden from view, lingers and chips away at your very soul.
To find peace of mind, you must come to terms with pain and its value and role in your life. Expect pain to occur in everyday life. Strive to learn from it. Recognize why you feel hurt. It’s alright to work your way through the loss and mourn. Then, give yourself time. Time heals.
With pain in your heart, there is no room for peace to enter.
Welcome peace by welcoming pain as a necessary teacher in life. Welcome peace by forgiving and moving on.







